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Advice to salafiah sister from One Whose Husband Took on Another Wife   Leave a comment

 الحمد لله وكفى ، والصلاة والسلام على النبي المصطفىوبعد
فهذه نصيحة أخوية من القلب لمن تزوج عليها زوجها ،أصارح بها الأخوات السلفيات الأثريات لعلها تتسلل إلىالعقول ، وتجد لها مكاناً في القلوب، وتخفف عن النفس ذلكالحزن والضيق ، بإذن الله عز وجل
 First: Remember, O Wife, that this Life is Home of Tests, Trials, and Actions. So when you are tested with an infliction, or a disaster or tragedy befalls you, then be patient and content, and do not object the Wisdom of Allaah Azza wa Jall (Mighty and Majestic), nor His Decision nor His Decree, for indeed to Allaah belongs what He Gave and to Allaah belongs what He took.And know that the test is a wordly practice (meaning, it always occurs), and that Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aalaa (May He, the Most High, be Glorified), when He loves a people He tests them, and whoever He is pleased with will receive pleasure, and whoever makes Him angry will receive anger.
Second: Remember the protected Salafee sisters from the Mothers of the Believers, May Allaah be pleased with them, and those following them of the righteous female slaves, and comtemplate and closely examine their condition and their conditions, and how they accompanied the Prophet Sallallahu ‘alayhe wa Sallam.And know that you, however much you are a devout worshipper or not, you are not better than them, conditionally, nor in worship, may Allaah be pleased with them all.
Third: Remember patience and contentness and its reward, and that from the affairs of the Muslim is patience during trial, and that will raise you in status. As-Sabr (Patience) and Good Thoughts about Allaah Azza wa Jall is from the characteristics of al-Muttaqeen (the Pious), and they are two characteristics that are fitting for you to be keen about them in a condition like the one you are in.
Fourth: Remember the end result of anxiety, and displeasure about the Decision of Allaah and His Decree, and beware of the Anger of Allaah and sin, and refusing the Decision, and uttering words of anguish and disbelief. And do not give shaytaan a place in your heart or else he would scatter his poisons and increase animosity, disord, and enmity.
Fifth: Remember your evil deeds, call yourself to account, and learn lessons from this test that will help you with Obediance, Worship, Holding on to the Sunnah, Qiyaamul-Layl (the Superogatory Night prayers), Leaving bid’ah (innovations), and a lot of Tawbah (Repentance), Istighfaar (Seeking forgiveness), ‘Inaabah (turning repentantly) and Tawakkal (Reliance upon Allaah).
Sixth: Remember that jealousy is a natural characteristic with the woman, but beware of transgressing the Islaamic Limit, and of undergoing malice and trials which divide the Muslim Homes and the Noble Family, and destroy the children.
Seventh: Remember your house, your sons, your daughters, your family, and your place, and beware of seeking divorce and hasty disconnection. So after this sacrifice, and this care and fatigue in building this family, the destruction due to an affliction that affected you?
Eighth: Remember the time and its blessings, and busy yourself with reading and memorizing al-Quraan, and preserving the Sunnah and the Books of Sharee’ah (Islaamic Law), and joining Salafee Sharee’ah knowledge courses, and presenting advice to the members of your house and your sisters, and take care of organizing and cleaning your house, and in protecting your children and raising them righteously Salafee.



Posted February 10, 2011 by thesunnahway in Polygamy

A woman may stipulate in the marriage contract that she be the only wife   Leave a comment

A woman may stipulate in the marriage contract that she be the only wife

Contrary to popular belief, a woman may stipulate in the marriage contract that she be the only wife. If he marries another, then she has the right to seek khula.No one is forcing the brother to accept that condition.If he accepts it than he MUST abide by it or she has right to leave the marriage. Please read below.

Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
“If he stipulates that he will not take her out of her house or her city, or that he will not travel with her or will not take another wife, then he is obliged to fulfil that, and if he does not do so, then she has the right to annul the marriage. This was narrated from ‘Umar, Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqaas and ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas (may Allah be pleased with them). “
Al-Mughni, 9/483


Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
The basic principle with regard to conditions in the marriage contract is that they are valid, unless there is proof to show that they are not valid. The evidence for that is the general meaning of the evidence which speaks of fulfilling covenants:
“O you who believe! Fulfil (your) obligations”
[al-Maa’idah 5:1]
“And fulfil (every) covenant. Verily, the covenant will be questioned about”
[al-Isra’ 17:34]
and in the hadeeth narrated from the Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) it says:
The Muslims are bound by their conditions, except a condition that forbids what is permissible or permits what is forbidden.” (Tirmidhi).
And he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
“Whoever stipulates a condition that is not in the Book of Allaah it is not valid, even if he stipulates a hundred times.” (Bukhaari and Muslim)
To sum up, the basic principle with regard to conditions is that they are permissible and valid, whether they are to do with marriage, buying and selling, renting, pledges or mortgages, or awqaaf. The ruling on the conditions that are stipulated in contracts, if they are valid, is that they must be fulfilled, because of the general meaning of the verse (interpretation of the meaning):
O you who believe! Fulfil (your) obligations”
[al-Maa’idah 5:1].
Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 5/241 (Egyptian edition).

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
“If she stipulates that he should not take another wife, this is permissible. Some of the scholars said that it is not permissible, because it is restricting the husband in something that Allah has permitted to him, and it is contrary to the Qur’aan in which it says (interpretation of the meaning): “then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four” [al-Nisa’ 4:3]. It may be said in response to that that she has a reason to ask him not to marry another wife and she is not transgressing against anyone. The husband himself is the one who is giving up his right; if he has the right to marry more than one, he is giving it up. So what is to prevent this condition being valid?
Hence the correct view with regard to this matter is the view of Imam Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him), which is that this condition is valid.” Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 5/243

Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan (may Allah preserve him) said:
“Among other conditions that are valid in marriage is if she stipulates that he should not take another wife. If he fulfils the condition (all well and good), otherwise she has the right to annul the marriage because of the hadeeth, “The condition which most deserves to be fulfilled is that by means of which intimacy becomes permissible for you.” Similarly, if she stipulates that he should not separate her from her children or parents, this condition is valid and if he breaks it, she has the right to annul the marriage. If she stipulates that her mahr should be increased or that it should be in a specific currency, the condition is valid and binding, and he has to fulfil it, and she has the right of annulment if it is broken. In that case she has the choice and may decide any time she wants and may annul it whenever she wants, so long as there is nothing on her part to indicate that she accepts it if she knows that he has gone against what was stipulated; in that case she would no longer have the option.

‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allah be pleased with him) said to the one who he ruled was obliged to fulfil what his wife had stipulated, when the man said, “Divorce us in that case,” ‘Umar said: It is a must to fulfil the conditions, because of the hadeeth, “The believers are bound by their conditions.”
Al-‘Allaamah Ibn al-Qayyim said: It is obligatory to fulfil these conditions which are the most deserving of being fulfilled. This is what is implied by sharee’ah, reason and sound analogy, if the woman did not agree to become a man’s wife except on these conditions, and if it were not obligatory to fulfil them, then the marriage contract would not be based on mutual agreement, and it would be making something obligatory upon her that Allah and His Messenger have not made obligatory.”Al-Mulakhkhas al-Fiqhi (2/345, 346)

Posted February 10, 2011 by thesunnahway in Polygamy

Women who obstruct their husband from remarrying other women   Leave a comment

We request from you an advice to the women who obstruct their husbands from marrying (other women) and they believe that it is a forbidden action?

نرجو نصيحة للنساء اللائي يمنعن أزواجهن من الزواج عليهن ويعتقدن أن ذلك محرم؟Answer:

Whoever is not pleased with the book of Allaah and the Sunnah of his Messenger is upon misguidance. Allaah, the most High said: “Then in which speech after Allah and His Ayaat will they believe?” (6)(Soorah al-Jaathiyah) and the most high said, “O you who believe! Fear Allaah (by doing all that He has ordered and by abstaining from all that He has forbidden) as He should be feared. [Obey Him, be thankful to Him, and remember Him always], and die not except in a state of Islaam [as Muslims (with complete submission to Allaah)].” (102)(Soorah Aali Imraan), and he said “O you who believe! Enter perfectly in Islaam (by obeying all the rules and regulations of the Islaamic religion)” (208)(Soorah Al-Baqarah). Surrendering and submitting to the book of Allaah and the Sunnah of his Messenger, Allah says “And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice.” (3)(Sooratun-Nisaa). The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessing upon him) said to Guilaan when he became muslim and had eight wives choose four of them and divorce the rest of them {narrated by Abu Daawood number 2243, Tirmidhee number 1130, Ibn Maajah number 1951 and other then them}.

من لم يقتنع بكتاب الله وسنة رسوله فهو على غير هدى، قال تعالى: ﴿فَبِأَيِّ حَدِيثٍ بَعْدَ اللهِ وَآيَاتِهِ يُؤْمِنُونَ﴾; [الجاثية:6].. وقال تعالى: ﴿يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللهَ حَقَّ تُقَاتِهِ وَلا تَمُوتُنَّ إِلَّا وَأَنْتُمْ مُسْلِمُونَ﴾; [آل عمران:102]. وقال: ﴿يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا ادْخُلُوا فِي السِّلْمِ كَافَّةً﴾; [البقرة:208] استسلام وانقياد لكتاب الله وسنة رسوله، يقول الله تقدس اسمه: ﴿وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَى فَانكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَى وَثُلاثَ وَرُبَاعَ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَلَّا تَعُولُوا﴾; [النساء:3]، وقال النبي صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم لغيلان حين أسلم وعنده ثماني نسوة: ýاختر منهن أربعًا، وطلق ما زاد على ذلكý(2). */حاشية/ـــــــــــــــــــــ (1) الجواب النافع على أسئلة أهل الضالع (أسئلة موجهة من الشباب السلفيين بمنطقة الشعيب بمحافظة الضالع)، بتاريخ: ليلة السبت 12 ذي القعدة 1422ه.. دماج – دار الحديث. (2) رواه أبو داود رقم (2243)، والترمذي رقم (1130)، وابن ماجة رقم (1951).. وغيرهم


Shaykh Yahyah Al-Hajooree




 Translated by Muhammad Elmi

Posted February 10, 2011 by thesunnahway in Polygamy

Is having more than one wife sunnah?   Leave a comment

Question: is having more than one wife something permissible in Islaam or is it the Sunnah?
The Answer: Having more than one wife is the Sunnah if you have ability to do so due to the saying of Allaah The most high:
Then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice. >> [Soorah an-Nisa:3]

And also due to the action of the Prophet – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam – he had altogether nine women and Allaah made it a means for the Ummah to have benefited from them.

This is from the distinguished characteristics of the Messenger – sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam, as for other than him then it is not allowed to combine more than four. As for having more than one wife then there are great benefits for men, women and all the Muslim Ummah. Indeed what is achieved/beneficial for everyone, by having more than one wife is lowering ones gaze, protection for the private parts, increase in offspring, that a man can look after the benefits of a large number of women and can defend them from causes of evil and deviances.

As for the one who is incapable of doing this and fears that he will not be just between them, then he should suffice with one due to the saying of Allaah Subhana:

<> [Soorah an-Nisa:3]

May Allaah give all the Muslims that which there is benefit for them and success for them in this world and the Hereafter. [al-Balaag magazine no.1028]

Posted February 10, 2011 by thesunnahway in Polygamy

The Hatred of polygamy is disbelief   Leave a comment

The Hatred of Polygamy is disbelief

His eminence Ibn Baaz, (raheemallaah)

Q. Some women prefer social customs in Europe, the West in general, or in non-Muslim countries. In this regard they said: “verily, plural marriages are forbidden”, for an example, legislative rulings permits plural marriages. What is the ruling of attaching this accusation (Plural marriage is forbidden) in Islam?

A. Whoever hates polygamy and claims that the lack of polygamy is best, is a disbeliever and an apostate from Islaam. For indeed he/she is a denier of Allah’s legislation, we seek refuge in Allah from the hatred of Allah’s rulings.

Allah the Almighty says: “That is because they hate what Allah has sent down (this Quraan and Islaamic laws, etc); so He has made their deeds fruitless.” (Suratu Muhammad ayah 9).

Whosoever denies what Allah has sent down their deeds will be fruitless. As for the one who denies polygamy and sees that verily the shariah indeed oppresses, or the rulings of Allah in this regard has deficiency in it, or it is not good, or what is done in Christian countries who marry one (wife) is better, all of this is apostasy in Islaam. We seek refuge in Allah from that, just like the one who will say: “verily, the obligation of Salaah is not appropriate”. Supposedly the people leave off Salaah, fasting and Zakaah it could have been better. Whoever says this he/she is a disbeliever. Whoever says verily lack of Salaah, Fasting Zakaah and Hajj is foremost, is a disbeliever. Like this, supposedly he said: it is permissible to rule with other than the sharia’h, even if the person says the sharia’h is better, but if he/she says: rulings with other than what Allah has sent down is permissible or is good, all of this is apostasy from Islaam. We seek refuge in Allah from that. What is taking place is, Verily whoever denies what Allah has sent down and what Allah legislated he/she has apostate, and like this whoever loves or is pleased with what Allah made unlawful and says it is good and appropriate for example: fornication and stealing, the individual will be a disbeliever as well. We ask Allah for His safety, Aameen.

Source: The Arabic text is from

Taken From The Fatawaa of our Shaykh, Allaama Mufti of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia
Abdul Azeez bin Abdullaah Bin Baaz

Translated by Abbas Abu Yahya

Posted February 10, 2011 by thesunnahway in Polygamy

Gheera (honorable jealousy)   Leave a comment

We live in societies in which most men and women have lost their
sense of modesty, women are obsessed with their appearances and wear
clothes to be seen by others and to attract the attention of other
men even if they are married! They have lost their sense of shame.
Marriage is often looked upon as old-fashioned and short term affairs
and frivolous relationships are the norm, everyone waiting to attract
a better partner and feeling totally justified to dump one partner
for another at the drop of a hat. Feminism too has reached its peak
and men and women are told to suppress their natural emotions. Men
are not even embarrassed when their wives are dressed up and attract
the attention of other men, they don’t mind if another man sees,
chats, laughs and even dances with their womenfolk and if they do
mind, they are told not to be so possessive!In Islam we have a
concept of Gheerah.

Gheerah is an Arabic word which means
protectiveness or jealousy. It is a good type of jealousy, like when
a man feels jealous or protective over his wife or sisters and other-
womenfolk and doesn’t like other men to look at them. It is a natural
inbuilt feeling Allah has given men and women. The Prophet (SAW) had
the most Gheerah for his wives and all of the companions were known
for their Gheerah. All Muslim men should have a collective sense of
protectiveness for Muslim women as Allah says in the Qur’an, the
meaning of which is: “The Men are the protectors and maintainers of
women…” (Surah An-Nisaa, Ayah 34). Men who do not care about how
their women behave and appear in front of other men and don’t enforce
hijaab upon their wives or women-folk are called Dayyooth. Being a
Dayyooth is a major sin and a detailed discription of this evil
characteristic can be found in adh-Dhahabee’s book of Major Sins
(Kitaab ul-Kabaa’ir). A story of GheerahTo further understand the
quality of Gheerah, we can look at an incident that Asmaa’ (RA) the
daughter of Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq (RA) and sister of Aisha (RA),
relates about herself. Abu Bakr was a wealthy merchant and he married
his daughterAsmaa’ to the great companion Az-Zubayr ibn al-`Awwam
(RA) who was a very poor man but a man of great piety and one of the
companions who were promised Paradise. Asmaa’ relates: “When az-
Zubayr married me, he had neither land nor wealth nor slave…”, so
Asmaa’ had to work very hard kneading dough, going far off to get
water. “And I used to carry on my head,” she continues, “the date
stones from the land of az-Zubair which Allah’s Messenger (SAW) had
endowed him and it was a distance of two miles from Madeenah. One
day, as I was carrying the date-stones upon my head, I happened to
meet Allah’s Messenger (SAW), along with a group of his Companions.
He called me and told the camel to sit down so that he could make me
ride behind him. I felt shy to go with men and I remembered az-Zubair
and his Gheerah and he was a man having the most Gheerah . The
Messenger of Allah (SAW) understood my shyness and left. I came to az-
Zubair and said: “The Messenger of Allah (SAW) met me as I was
carrying date-stones upon my head and there was with him a group of
his Companions. He told the camel to kneel so that I could mount it,
but I felt shy and I remembered your Gheerah.” SoAsmaa’ declined the
offer made by the Prophet (SAW). Upon this az-Zubair said: “By Allah,
the thought of you carrying date-stones upon your head is more severe
a burden on me than you riding with him.” (related in Saheeh Bukhari)
Look at the sense of dignity and modesty of Asmaa’! See how she felt
shy in front of men? See how careful she was about her husband’s
feelings? She knew that her husband had a lot of Gheerah so she
didn’t want to upset him by accepting the Prophet’s (SAW) help even
though the Prophet was the purest of men and even though it meant
bringing hardship on herself! And look at az-Zubair (RA), even though
he had a lot of Gheerah, he didn’t want to inconvenience his wife.
What a beautiful relationship they had! Nurturing our sense of
GheerahSometimes Muslim women don’t understand if their menfolk want
them to cover their faces or if they ask them to change something
about the way they dress or speak in public, thinking that the men
are being over-protective. But my dear sisters! If your husband asks
you not to wear a certain colour of khimaar because it brings out the
beauty of your eyes, or if he wants you to cover your face – by
Allah, be thankful! Be proud of the fact that your husband has a
sense of Gheerah for you and that he values you and cares for your
hereafter. He knows what men can be like more than you do and so
never try and suppress his Gheerah in these types of matters. And his
concern for you should incite your own sense of honour! Why should
any man be able to see your beauty and think indecent thoughts about
you? We must nurture our own and our menfolk’s sense of Gheerah by
behaving and dressing modestly ourselves and paying attention to
their valid opinions. We expect certain behaviour from them andthey
expect it of us. And besides, if our husband asks us to do something
that it not Haraam, we must do it. And Brothers! How can you allow
your wife or sister to walk around attracting the attentions and evil-
thoughts of other men? How can you not mind if she smiles as she
talks to other men. Nobody has the right to enjoy her and her company
but you and her Maharim men. You are not being overbearing if you
first encourage and then enforce the hijaab on your womenfolk because
YOU will be asked about it on the Day of Judgement and it is also a
major sin upon YOU! It is upon the men to enforce these things in
their homes and you cannot use the excuse that your wife didn’t want
to. Women need a firm, balanced, guiding hand from their men, so with
wisdom you must enforce hijaab in your home. You are a shepard and
are responsible for your flock! Allah reminds us all in the Qur’an,
the meaning of which is:”Oh you who believe, Protect yourselves and
your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones.” (At-Tahreem,
Aayah 6) There is a big difference between how Islam values and
protects women and how cheaply women are treated outside of Islam! As
Muslims we have to be careful that our Hayaa’ (sense of modesty and
shame) and Gheerah don’t wear out in a society in which people have
lost it.

Posted February 2, 2011 by thesunnahway in Gheera

Do you have Gheera for the Deen of Allaah?   Leave a comment

Bismillaah Al-Hamdulillaah wa salatu wa salaamu ‘ala rasulullaah  
Amma ba’d

The scholars are those who start out as students of the genuine scholars, and they spent decades learning from them, and they pass all their tests. Then, when they have passed all the tests and fulfilled all the requirements, the genuine scholars declare them “scholars.”

So the scholars are well known and listed, kind of like the doctors are well known and listed. Who – by Allaah’s Permission – declares someone a doctor? The Board of doctors, right? Likewise – actually, even more so – the genuine scholars declare – by Allaah’s Permission – someone a scholar. And these genuine scholars have told us “there are no scholars out west,” so we are not fooled.  

And just like if a surgeon has a problem in his foundation, he will not be allowed to perform surgery, likewise – actually, even more so – any one with even one mistake in ‘aqidah or manhaj is advised, and if he refuses, then knowledge is not taken from him and he is warned against for the benefit of the Ummah and the preservation of the Deen of Allaah [in accordance with the Sunnah of the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam), who talked about Dhul-Khwaisra and others in their absence].

One mistake in the foundation keeps scholars and other defenders of the Deen up at night, worrying and making plans to help keep sincere Muslims from falling into such evil. Those who have no Gheera [honorable jealousy, protection] for the Deen shrug off mistakes in ‘aqidah and allow them to fall off their shoulders like water in the shower, and may actually – and Allaah’s refuge is sought from this – wind up supporting and defending the innovators and their bid’ah.

The Messenger of Allaah (salallaahu ‘alaihiwasallam) said, “May Allaah curse he who harbors (accomodates) an innovator (Muhdithan)” and in another wording “that which is innovated (Muhdathan).”  [Explanation of this hadeeth, by Shaykh ‘Abdul-‘Azeez ar-Rayyis, found below]

Student of knowledge Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis (may Allaah reward him) said the following in explaining why Yasir Qadhi was refuted by the scholars of Madinah and is warned against by Ahlus-Sunnah wal Jama’ah:

But ikhwaan, what should be the case for the one who has gheera [honorable jealousy, protection] for his Deen, and gheera for the Sunnah, is the he should be angry at the statements these people are making concerning the Deen, and the Sunnah, and the manhaj, and ahlul-‘ilm (the People of Knowledge), and the Salafiyoon, generally. That is what we should be angry about. Not the fact that one individual is spoken against. And why is he spoken against? [Is it] something because of his family, his kids, his characteristics, his features? [No.] He’s spoken against because of the statemets he’s made concerning the Deen of Allaah! The Deen of Allaah! And ikhwan, therefore, when that is the case, let us get our priorities straight as it relates to this issue of speaking against individuals who oppose the Deen of Allaah. It is Allaah’s Deen, ikhwan, that we defend when we speak against these individuals.

Posted February 2, 2011 by thesunnahway in Gheera