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Gheera (honorable jealousy)   Leave a comment


We live in societies in which most men and women have lost their
sense of modesty, women are obsessed with their appearances and wear
clothes to be seen by others and to attract the attention of other
men even if they are married! They have lost their sense of shame.
Marriage is often looked upon as old-fashioned and short term affairs
and frivolous relationships are the norm, everyone waiting to attract
a better partner and feeling totally justified to dump one partner
for another at the drop of a hat. Feminism too has reached its peak
and men and women are told to suppress their natural emotions. Men
are not even embarrassed when their wives are dressed up and attract
the attention of other men, they don’t mind if another man sees,
chats, laughs and even dances with their womenfolk and if they do
mind, they are told not to be so possessive!In Islam we have a
concept of Gheerah.

Gheerah is an Arabic word which means
protectiveness or jealousy. It is a good type of jealousy, like when
a man feels jealous or protective over his wife or sisters and other-
womenfolk and doesn’t like other men to look at them. It is a natural
inbuilt feeling Allah has given men and women. The Prophet (SAW) had
the most Gheerah for his wives and all of the companions were known
for their Gheerah. All Muslim men should have a collective sense of
protectiveness for Muslim women as Allah says in the Qur’an, the
meaning of which is: “The Men are the protectors and maintainers of
women…” (Surah An-Nisaa, Ayah 34). Men who do not care about how
their women behave and appear in front of other men and don’t enforce
hijaab upon their wives or women-folk are called Dayyooth. Being a
Dayyooth is a major sin and a detailed discription of this evil
characteristic can be found in adh-Dhahabee’s book of Major Sins
(Kitaab ul-Kabaa’ir). A story of GheerahTo further understand the
quality of Gheerah, we can look at an incident that Asmaa’ (RA) the
daughter of Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq (RA) and sister of Aisha (RA),
relates about herself. Abu Bakr was a wealthy merchant and he married
his daughterAsmaa’ to the great companion Az-Zubayr ibn al-`Awwam
(RA) who was a very poor man but a man of great piety and one of the
companions who were promised Paradise. Asmaa’ relates: “When az-
Zubayr married me, he had neither land nor wealth nor slave…”, so
Asmaa’ had to work very hard kneading dough, going far off to get
water. “And I used to carry on my head,” she continues, “the date
stones from the land of az-Zubair which Allah’s Messenger (SAW) had
endowed him and it was a distance of two miles from Madeenah. One
day, as I was carrying the date-stones upon my head, I happened to
meet Allah’s Messenger (SAW), along with a group of his Companions.
He called me and told the camel to sit down so that he could make me
ride behind him. I felt shy to go with men and I remembered az-Zubair
and his Gheerah and he was a man having the most Gheerah . The
Messenger of Allah (SAW) understood my shyness and left. I came to az-
Zubair and said: “The Messenger of Allah (SAW) met me as I was
carrying date-stones upon my head and there was with him a group of
his Companions. He told the camel to kneel so that I could mount it,
but I felt shy and I remembered your Gheerah.” SoAsmaa’ declined the
offer made by the Prophet (SAW). Upon this az-Zubair said: “By Allah,
the thought of you carrying date-stones upon your head is more severe
a burden on me than you riding with him.” (related in Saheeh Bukhari)
Look at the sense of dignity and modesty of Asmaa’! See how she felt
shy in front of men? See how careful she was about her husband’s
feelings? She knew that her husband had a lot of Gheerah so she
didn’t want to upset him by accepting the Prophet’s (SAW) help even
though the Prophet was the purest of men and even though it meant
bringing hardship on herself! And look at az-Zubair (RA), even though
he had a lot of Gheerah, he didn’t want to inconvenience his wife.
What a beautiful relationship they had! Nurturing our sense of
GheerahSometimes Muslim women don’t understand if their menfolk want
them to cover their faces or if they ask them to change something
about the way they dress or speak in public, thinking that the men
are being over-protective. But my dear sisters! If your husband asks
you not to wear a certain colour of khimaar because it brings out the
beauty of your eyes, or if he wants you to cover your face – by
Allah, be thankful! Be proud of the fact that your husband has a
sense of Gheerah for you and that he values you and cares for your
hereafter. He knows what men can be like more than you do and so
never try and suppress his Gheerah in these types of matters. And his
concern for you should incite your own sense of honour! Why should
any man be able to see your beauty and think indecent thoughts about
you? We must nurture our own and our menfolk’s sense of Gheerah by
behaving and dressing modestly ourselves and paying attention to
their valid opinions. We expect certain behaviour from them andthey
expect it of us. And besides, if our husband asks us to do something
that it not Haraam, we must do it. And Brothers! How can you allow
your wife or sister to walk around attracting the attentions and evil-
thoughts of other men? How can you not mind if she smiles as she
talks to other men. Nobody has the right to enjoy her and her company
but you and her Maharim men. You are not being overbearing if you
first encourage and then enforce the hijaab on your womenfolk because
YOU will be asked about it on the Day of Judgement and it is also a
major sin upon YOU! It is upon the men to enforce these things in
their homes and you cannot use the excuse that your wife didn’t want
to. Women need a firm, balanced, guiding hand from their men, so with
wisdom you must enforce hijaab in your home. You are a shepard and
are responsible for your flock! Allah reminds us all in the Qur’an,
the meaning of which is:”Oh you who believe, Protect yourselves and
your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones.” (At-Tahreem,
Aayah 6) There is a big difference between how Islam values and
protects women and how cheaply women are treated outside of Islam! As
Muslims we have to be careful that our Hayaa’ (sense of modesty and
shame) and Gheerah don’t wear out in a society in which people have
lost it.

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Posted February 2, 2011 by thesunnahway in Gheera

Do you have Gheera for the Deen of Allaah?   Leave a comment


Bismillaah Al-Hamdulillaah wa salatu wa salaamu ‘ala rasulullaah  
Amma ba’d

The scholars are those who start out as students of the genuine scholars, and they spent decades learning from them, and they pass all their tests. Then, when they have passed all the tests and fulfilled all the requirements, the genuine scholars declare them “scholars.”

So the scholars are well known and listed, kind of like the doctors are well known and listed. Who – by Allaah’s Permission – declares someone a doctor? The Board of doctors, right? Likewise – actually, even more so – the genuine scholars declare – by Allaah’s Permission – someone a scholar. And these genuine scholars have told us “there are no scholars out west,” so we are not fooled.  

And just like if a surgeon has a problem in his foundation, he will not be allowed to perform surgery, likewise – actually, even more so – any one with even one mistake in ‘aqidah or manhaj is advised, and if he refuses, then knowledge is not taken from him and he is warned against for the benefit of the Ummah and the preservation of the Deen of Allaah [in accordance with the Sunnah of the Prophet (salallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam), who talked about Dhul-Khwaisra and others in their absence].

One mistake in the foundation keeps scholars and other defenders of the Deen up at night, worrying and making plans to help keep sincere Muslims from falling into such evil. Those who have no Gheera [honorable jealousy, protection] for the Deen shrug off mistakes in ‘aqidah and allow them to fall off their shoulders like water in the shower, and may actually – and Allaah’s refuge is sought from this – wind up supporting and defending the innovators and their bid’ah.

The Messenger of Allaah (salallaahu ‘alaihiwasallam) said, “May Allaah curse he who harbors (accomodates) an innovator (Muhdithan)” and in another wording “that which is innovated (Muhdathan).”  [Explanation of this hadeeth, by Shaykh ‘Abdul-‘Azeez ar-Rayyis, found below]

Student of knowledge Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis (may Allaah reward him) said the following in explaining why Yasir Qadhi was refuted by the scholars of Madinah and is warned against by Ahlus-Sunnah wal Jama’ah:

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But ikhwaan, what should be the case for the one who has gheera [honorable jealousy, protection] for his Deen, and gheera for the Sunnah, is the he should be angry at the statements these people are making concerning the Deen, and the Sunnah, and the manhaj, and ahlul-‘ilm (the People of Knowledge), and the Salafiyoon, generally. That is what we should be angry about. Not the fact that one individual is spoken against. And why is he spoken against? [Is it] something because of his family, his kids, his characteristics, his features? [No.] He’s spoken against because of the statemets he’s made concerning the Deen of Allaah! The Deen of Allaah! And ikhwan, therefore, when that is the case, let us get our priorities straight as it relates to this issue of speaking against individuals who oppose the Deen of Allaah. It is Allaah’s Deen, ikhwan, that we defend when we speak against these individuals.

Posted February 2, 2011 by thesunnahway in Gheera

Men who do not have (Gheera) protective jealousy over their wives, sisters & daughters are Dayyooths & prohbited from jannah   1 comment


Men who do not have (Gheera) protective jealousy over their wives, sisters & daughters are Dayyooths & prohbited from jannah

Sisters, when your flouncing about feeling so free and happy and ‘liberated’ because your husbands allow you to leave the house or mix with non mehram men or put your pictures up on facebook looking dolled up with a glossy pout and seductive eyes and an improper hijab which you try to convince your self is ‘fine’ because its loose or that merely covering your hair with a scarf is sufficient then ask your self this……
 
Does your husband not have protective jealousy over you? Does he not mind showing you or letting you talk to his friends and non mehram relatives? Does he not mind you leaving your house without covering properly or having a face full of makeup? Does he not mind that thousands of other men can see your photos on social networking sites such as facebook and the like? If not then there is a huge problem with his imaan as the obligation of hijab isnt just on your head, its on your husbands head too because if he doesnt have protective jealous of you he is a Dayyooth and prohibited from junnah.
 

One who lacks ghayrah; one who does not care if (non mahram) men approach his wife, mother, sister or daughter. A dayyooth is prohibited from entering Paradise (Recorded by Ahmad)
 
“Three people will not enter paradise, and Allaah will not look to them on the Day of Judgement: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the woman who imitates men and the ad-Dayooth.” (Ahmad)
 
Ibn al-Qayyim, rahimahullaah, said, “And the dayyooth (the man with no jealousy over the woman and his family) is the most vile of Allah’s creation, and Junnah is forbidden for him, (because of his lack of Gharyah-jealousy).A man should be “jealous” with regard to his wife’s honor and standing. He should defend her whenever she is slandered or spoken ill of behind her back. Actually, this is a right of every Muslim in general but a right of the spouse specifically. He should also be jealous in not allowing other men to look at his wife or speak with her in a manner which is not appropriate.
 
Some men deliberatly allow and encourage their wives to dress up knowing full well other men will look at her. Perhaps because they’re proud of their wife’s beauty which in itself isnt a bad thing because it shows hes pleased with her because shes beautiful but that doesnt mean to say he should show her off because that is prohibited in Islam. Rather he should encourage her and also his female relatives such as his mum, sister, or daughter to cover up and dress in a way that is pleasing to Allaah and not for the rest of society.
 
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because of what Allah has preferred one with over the other and because of what they spend to support them from their wealth.” [Sûrah an-Nisâ’: 34]
 
Any men who might be reading this here are some things you can do for your wife so she will feel protected and maintained.
 
-You do all the shopping rather then letting your wife do it. If you work, get the shopping in the mornings or on your way back from work or on your days off. If your not confident enough then go with your wife for the first few times so she can show you which shops she gets what from and you can take it from there.
 
-When some one knocks on the door, you get it so she doesnt have to rush around trying to find her hijab and jilbab or have to talk to a man unnecessarily and dont leave the door wide open so that your wife is in full view. Answer the phone incase its a man, be authoritive.
 
-Dont let her go out on her own when it gets dark because it’s not modest for a woman to be out at night. If theres any errands she must run during that time then go with her and if you cant make sure she has a mehram with her so shes not on her own.
 
-Be her chauffeur even if you dont drive. If she needs to go any where even during the daylight hours drop her off and pick her up.
 
-Dont let her travel without a mehram, not only because it isnt allowed but also because she will feel like you care about her and want her to be safe.
 
-When your out walking it is a sunnah for the man to walk on the outside and the woman to walk on the inside of the road. That way she is less visible to people driving past in their cars and if any men walk towards you, you can make sure he walks on the outside nearer the road so he doesnt brush past your wife.
 
-Remind her that you think she is beautiful because she covers her beauty and that you would be jealous if any man looked at her or tried to speak to her. Remind her that you want to protect her from wandering eyes and thoughts and that you want her to always remain safe and that you want to take care of her because she is yours and no one elses.
 
I know there are some sisters who wouldnt want to be treated this way because they might feel slightly oppressed or stuck in the dark ages but I believe thats their own backward mentallity or lack of undertanding of Islam. They want to be an independant woman but just because you are cared for and protected doesnt mean you cant be independant.

Posted November 14, 2010 by thesunnahway in Gheera